How my husband defeats almost every stereotype (some) people have about Chinese men

After reading an article listing 8 reasons why Western women rarely marry Chinese men on The World of Chinese, I have to wonder: Is my husband completely different from most other Chinese men (he sure is extraordinary) or is it just way too convenient for us to stereotype a whole group of people (a group that […]

“Before marriage, you’ll have a lot of pressure”

In August 2013 I start going to the gym. When I have my first training, my trainer, a guy probably not much older than me, asks me: “Are you married?” He’s fast to go on: “In your culture that question would probably be inappropriate for me to ask, wouldn’t it?” I: “Well, depending on the […]

Hiding our love and a romantic morning walk

Shortly before spring festival 2012 my company goes to the countryside. We visit Cengcheng, a small village not far from Shenzhen. Y and I have avoided being seen together too often by our co-workers except for lunch which we usually have together. On the bus that takes us to Cengcheng, we sit right next to […]

A day like a week like a month like a year

It took us a week to fall in love with each other. Two weeks to get together. On the weekend of the third week we were sitting on the carpet in Ys apartment, holding hands and laughing without end, both unable to believe that it had been only a week since we got together. It […]

Falling in love over potato soup

One day in early December 2012 I invite Y and two friends to come to my place and eat homemade potato soup. It is the first weekend after I have started working in a Chinese advertising agency in Shenzhen and Y has accompanied me the whole day to buy things for making handicrafts. In the […]