How my husband defeats almost every stereotype (some) people have about Chinese men

After reading an article listing 8 reasons why Western women rarely marry Chinese men on The World of Chinese, I have to wonder: Is my husband completely different from most other Chinese men (he sure is extraordinary) or is it just way too convenient for us to stereotype a whole group of people (a group that […]

1980 or The year that my in-laws tied the knot

One Sunday afternoon in February, 2014, my husband and I sit in our living room drinking tea and chatting. My in-laws have gone to the market and we enjoy some alone time. When they come back, we are still sitting on pillows on the floor, drinking tea and talking about this and that. The next […]

“Oh my god, I’m going to be a father!”

After getting to know that I’m pregnant and in the time before the first ultrasound, my husband is anxious. The doctor has told us that we have to monitor the progress and that chances are the egg would nest in the wrong place. This and the fact that miscarriages are highest in the first trimester […]

Hiding our love and a romantic morning walk

Shortly before spring festival 2012 my company goes to the countryside. We visit Cengcheng, a small village not far from Shenzhen. Y and I have avoided being seen together too often by our co-workers except for lunch which we usually have together. On the bus that takes us to Cengcheng, we sit right next to […]

“He’s not your husband yet”

If you drink Chinese medicine, at the beginning of the treatment your TCM doctor will usually require you to go see him/her every 3-4 days. The formula of the herbs will be adjusted every few days and while the basic ingredients might stay the same, the doctor might delete some of the herbs while at […]

“Remember to wear a comfortable bra”

Y and I are getting married tomorrow. I’ve prepared this little story for you and will publish a few photos of our wedding pictures shoot tomorrow. Enjoy! On the evening before the day that we had our wedding pictures taken, my MIL-to-be sends me a message: “Dear R, since you’re going to take pictures tomorrow, […]

A day like a week like a month like a year

It took us a week to fall in love with each other. Two weeks to get together. On the weekend of the third week we were sitting on the carpet in Ys apartment, holding hands and laughing without end, both unable to believe that it had been only a week since we got together. It […]

A night out at Christmas

At Christmas 2012, my boyfriend and me had been together for less than two weeks. We hadn’t yet made our relationship public, so our colleagues did not know for sure if we were together or not. Some already guessed we were while some thought Y was chasing after me, without us being actually together yet. […]

Falling in love over potato soup

One day in early December 2012 I invite Y and two friends to come to my place and eat homemade potato soup. It is the first weekend after I have started working in a Chinese advertising agency in Shenzhen and Y has accompanied me the whole day to buy things for making handicrafts. In the […]