My new coworker and I have lunch together. She is a woman in her mid-to-late 30s and has a two-year-old child. After she asks me about marrying Y, it’s my turn to ask her.
I: “You’re married, aren’t you?”
She: “I am.”
I: “Have you two been together for quite a while?”
She: “We have. We met quite a long time ago.”
I: “So did you meet at university?”
She: “No, we met at work, just like you and Y. It was my first job. We’ve already been together for 10 years. When I come home in the evenings, I like to play with my little one. Being together for such a long time and having a small kid to take care of, well, to be honest, there’s not much I and my husband talk about anymore.”
I don’t really know what to reply to this. My co-worker doesn’t seem too unhappy about the fact that she and her husband don’t talk much with each other, but rather like this is something that she has gotten used to early into her relationship.
Do you think that this is a very common problem with couples who have been together for so long? I’d love to read your comments.