How I turned my husband’s life upside down

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my Chinese husband / photo courtesy of Jakob Silbermayr

In the autumn of 2012, my husband is a single guy in his thirties. He has broken up with his girlfriend only a few months before and isn’t looking for a new one. He plans to further his career and to stay single for a while. Until 2015 to be exact. This is the year that he plans to look for a serious relationship.

In 2012 he is 31, an age where many Chinese parents would like their kids to get married rather sooner than later (if they aren’t already married, that is). Friends suggest to introduce him to girls and although his mother asks once in a while if he has met someone special yet and suggests that he should look for a woman born in the year of the ox, he doesn’t have any intentions of doing so. He wants to earn some money first and take off work later for a few months in 2014 to travel across China.

These are his plans. Until he meets a woman born in the year of the rabbit – me.

In August 2012 I often have to go to the company to deal with all the paperwork that is needed in order to apply for a work visa. One time I have to wait for F who is in charge of helping me with all the paperwork. While I sit in an empty room waiting for her to copy some forms, one employee comes by and starts chatting with me. He asks me if I can speak Chinese (a rhetorical question, he already knows I do) and when I say yes, he asks about my name and where I’m from and tells me that he has been working for a foreign company for 5 years. His boss? Austrian.

In the summer of that year, I am living in an apartment not far from the company. On a hot summer day I go to a nearby supermarket to buy vegetables for lunch. I put the vegetables on the cash desk waiting to pay. When I look up, I look into the face of the very employee who has chatted with me a few days before. He has just paid and gets ready to go. At first I don’t recognise him. I look away, only to look at him again, wondering why he’s still looking at me. He says my name using German pronunciation. Only then do I realise where I have seen his face before. My head turns red, not just because I haven’t recognised him but also because he can say my name in German while I don’t know anything about him yet. He shakes his head slightly, kind of telling me that I don’t need to be embarrassed. After exchanging a few words, he goes back to work and I go back home to prepare lunch. Little do I know at that time that I will be married to this very guy less than a year later.

I don’t start working at the company until december of the same year. December 2012 is when I turn my husband’s life upside down. In the summer of 2012 we’re still strangers. In the first week of december 2012 we’re coworkers. In the third week of december 2012 we become boyfriend and girlfriend. On the last day of december 2012 we become fiancé and fiancée. And half a year later, well, you all know how that story ends (if you haven’t seen our pre-wedding pictures yet, click here).

Has anyone ever turned your life upside down or have you turned someone’s life upside down?

On a side note: I got the inspiration for this post from a friend who asked me: “So how did you actually meet?” It made me realise that there are quite a few people who don’t know how it all started. Well, now you do.

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21 thoughts on “How I turned my husband’s life upside down

  1. I love your story, everything moves faster in China 😉 …except buses!
    I am sure your husband is glad you changes his life! Weall make plans, and the fun part of it is when we realize how we find our ways and they are not similar to our original plans.
    Now I am heading to the photo section! Will see your pics!


  2. oops…
    I was saying… I’m thinking about writing a similar post since I am turning someone’s life upside down right now…
    I will go write the article on this blog I almost never use…
    read the story whenever you have time! we just started dating but it will probably be some kind of life-time love story too…


    • Thanks for pointing me to your story. I just read it, you two look super cute together! It might sound crazy for others, but if it feels right it may be right, even if you’ve only been together for such a short time. Just follow your heart (such as I did – if I had followed my head instead I would have never gotten engaged with Y after being together for less than only a month). Wishing you the best of luck!


  3. haha great story. Nice to read how you two met. Rabbit year, ugh? you must be gentle, studious, and lovely in the least. Don’t get me wrong, Chinese thoughts. hehe..

    Wish you well and hope you two have a meaningful future.


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  10. This is like freakishly adorable. I love it.
    And here I was thinking *I* had a whirlwind romance (he proposed on our one year anniversary; tied the knot on our two year anniversary).

    Your story makes me so happy~ Congrats!


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